Dating a young widow


28-Mar-2017 00:30

I knew not everyone was interested in dating a widow.

Especially since my husband's family had basically adopted me.

I've always felt that asking someone to remove them is rude and disrespectful, especially if the person has children.

He has a history with her and it's a good one, but remember She's not coming back and in time those memories will begin to fade a little and be replaced with stories of you.So while my pals were busy planning weddings or preparing to have kids, I was setting up a scholarship fund in my husband's memory and trying to figure out what to do with his clothes.I'd occasionally meet elderly widows -- my grandmother's friends mostly.Many of them would offer condolences and words of empathy like, "I know just what you're going through." And while I'm sure losing a spouse after 50-plus years of marriage is heart-wrenching, I'd secretly feel envious that they got to grow old together.

While all widows experience a tremendous amount of grief, young widows encounter social complications that make the experience particularly isolating.What you might see as attraction may just be his way of having some companionship and he may not be ready to move further.2. Okay, maybe I'm old fashioned but when I get emails that talk about a long-term relationship and getting serious before basic dating has even begun, well I wonder about the person's intentions. The widow/widower is going through a rough time and jumping 10 steps ahead isn't going to help either one of you.3. This is such a popular topic that I have to talk about it.I received one email recently that it 'bothered' the person that widower had a picture of his late wife in his house.But, they'd usually kindly excuse themselves moments later. While it was kind of them to do so, I wasn't all that interested. Do I blurt out "I'm Amy and I'm a widow" right up front to see if they're still interested in dating me?