Dating numerous people
When — or if — do I have to tell the people about each other?
There is an enduring instinct to treat people the way that we’d like to be treated.
Should you keep dating others until something more serious develops or go in for the kill on the one you want more with now and risk them ending it?
Life is nothing more than a series of risks, large and small, calculated and unplanned.
“How could I possibly date two people, or even three people, when handling one person was too much?
You are a powerful and confident and fantastic person who deserves the very best, and sometimes it takes a minute to figure out what the very best is.Is having sex with multiple people something they have a right to specifically KNOW, especially if you’re using condoms? Personally, if I’m having sex with somebody, I would prefer it that I was the only person they’re having sex with, but would love the freedom to be able to do whatever I wanted to do. No, not really, but as my mother always tells me, life isn’t fair.Regardless, the people you’re boning have somewhat of a right to know, but when and if you want to tell them is up to you.If you’re casually seeing more than one person, keep that up until the balance tips in favor of one or the other.
But until you have “the talk” about being exclusive, you don’t to tell anyone anything.
What happens when one, or two, or three of the people are starting to catch feelings, and is leading up to The Talk, but you’re not ready for that? If you suspect that one of the people you’re seeing is starting to develop real, actionable feelings, and those feelings just aren’t there for you yet, it’s in your best interest and theirs to be honest.