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“Relationships are like elastic bands,” my friend explained. Of course we aren't perfect and we both screw up at times (sometimes we REALLY screw up) but we make it our main priority to always be kind and that in of itself is worth so much. I have read John Gray's book and various blog advice posts from him and they all irritate me massively because 80% of them persists in telling women how men think and feel, and how basically women should learn to control themselves, stop being 'needy' and ignore their feelings of hurt and rejection when her object of desire 'pulls away'.“If you pull away, they’ll follow you, but if you get closer, (‘Honey! The remaining 20% eludes to how men need to understand why the woman may feel hurt. Men are not Neanderthals that can only behave in accordance to their primitive and inexplicable urges to 'find autonomy', and neither is it appropriate or convenient for a woman in a relationship with a man to only raise conversations with a man when he is on the return cycle seeking out intimacy from her. My mother has told me more than once there isn't anything a man appreciates more than a woman who is nice to him. Some pulling and pushing as wills and desires conflict is normal, and usually ends in a compromise, and negotiating intimacy can be tricky, but to be deliberately mean is, well, mean. So they can all exist together, particularly if you can ground yourself by choosing to truley understand for your partner.For example, if you are flirting with a girl you just met, a good way to start flirting through touch is to use the back of your hand and simply tap her around the upper elbow.From there, take small steps forward with your touch.
In genuine intimate relationships, the partnership genre, differences are appreciated and cherished with partners who are flexible, collaborative, accepting, honest (sans the games playing and the control), compassionate, supportive, fair, equal, reliable, loving. Easier said than done (as Gottman points out based on his research).A man who ignores a woman after a period of intimacy or sex is being disrespectful and it shouldn't be tolerated.No woman likes this and instead of bending over backward to accommodate a man being able to pick her up and dump her whenever he likes, she should be strong and tell him she doesn't like this behaviour and that he needs to get over himself and be consistent if he wants her to stick around.I'm not attracted to a man who buggers off at unpredictable moments.